It’s Not About Food

Eating disorders can be very difficult to understand for those who have not experienced one for themselves. From an outsider’s perspective, it may appear like the simplest disorder to treat: just eat or stop eating so much! However, contrary to common belief, eating disorders are not about food, weight, or vanity. They are very serious psychological disorders and require professional help and treatment.

Behaviors with food, whether it be restricting, binging, purging, laxative abuse, etc., are means of coping with overwhelming feelings. These behaviors actually help one to survive and manage life. These behaviors help to numb out painful feelings and dull emotional stress. The eating disorder does not just come out of nowhere. It serves a function in the subject’s life and actually works quite well. Unfortunately, these behaviors are maladaptive and will eventually cause great harm or even death. Until the underlying pain and hurt gets addressed and resolved, the eating disorder will continue to be used as a coping mechanism.

Like any other addiction, nobody decides to develop an eating disorder. An alcoholic does not consciously decide to become addicted to alcohol. In the same way, a person who suffers with an eating disorder does not choose their addiction. This understanding is very important because those with eating disorders already carry a lot of secrecy and shame. It is crucial to understand that it is not their fault.

Eating disorders are considered process addictions because the addiction is not to a substance, such as alcohol or illicit drugs. The process of restriction involves planning, counting, measuring, comparing, fantasizing, obsessing… it consumes one’s entirety of energy, time, and life. This total consumption of one’s thoughts conveniently distracts one from the real emotional pain that is occurring deep inside. It is a lot easier to think about food than it is to feel the hurt that is present. Reducing life to calories and weight seems a lot simpler that handling the stresses and challenges of life.

Eating disorders serve many different purposes. Often, they start with an innocent diet or desire to lose weight. This process often becomes psychologically reinforcing from outside compliments and societal praise. Restriction soon becomes a means of enhancing self-esteem and producing a feeling of control. It is also helpful for me to think of eating disordered behaviors as replacements for relational needs. For example, binging on pizza and ice cream may feel comforting. For someone who feels lonely, food is always dependable. It creates instant company. Many compulsive over-eaters use body fat as armor against unwanted sexual attention. Restrictors who want to remain small like a child may fear taking on the responsibilities of adulthood.

Each individual’s particular eating disorder is saying something different. Understanding the function of the eating disorder and listening to what the eating disorder is trying to communicate is imperative for recovery. Early detection and treatment is ideal, but hope and healing is possible at any stage and at any age. Full recovery is possible with the proper treatment and support.

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